I try to support the Mass in both forms in my parish because the same priest, our pastor, celebrates both and does so with the utmost reverence and care. Now, if he could only get the rest of the parish to follow suit.
Rebecca was scheduled to lector at the Vigil Mass this evening. She is very careful with her dress and her mannerisms and takes care to read in such as way as to make herself invisible. At the exchange of peace, she remains at her place and simply nods toward the priest. When we don't have a server, Father expects her to take a paten and assist him with distributing Holy Communion. She spent enough years as an altar server to know what to do. She gets to Mass about 30 minutes before it's scheduled to start, and then she goes over the readings and sets a paten at the place where she will be sitting. She takes nothing upon herself and everything she does is sanctioned by the pastor.
Tonight, I once again had to bury my head in my hands so as not to see the fiasco that a wanna-be EM caused. He took it upon himself to approach the altar at Holy Communion so that he could "assist" by holding a paten. He caused such a disruption that I no longer thought that I should approach the altar because of the anger I felt. Rebecca was trying to make her Communion when he asked her where the second paten was. She shrugged. He then kept asking the priest where the second paten was, and then he preceded the priest off the altar, the priest who was carrying the Ciborium. Then he put his hands on Father and directed him where to stand. And then he directed Rebecca to go assist the EM as he would be assisting Father.
You don't see this nonsense at the Extraordinary Form. But I would submit that if we no longer had EM's, we wouldn't see this at the Novus Ordo either. Then again, if the altar boys would show up once in awhile, it probably wouldn't happen either as there would be no void for anyone to think they have to fill.
The gentleman in question has been leaving hints for a few years that he'd like to be an EM. Thankfully, his request has fallen on deaf ears, because I can just imagine what we'd have to endure otherwise.
I said a Hail Mary for myself and another for my poor pastor. It's not the time to correct someone when he's holding the Sacred Body of Christ. But I bet I know what he was thinking.
How long, oh Lord, how long?